Monday, October 17, 2011

Zachary Quinto Is Not Out Of His Vulcan Mind

 
When I was about 5 or 6 I was walking around the boardwalk at Santa Cruz, a place I loved going to as a child. I saw all kinds of people. From old couples, to guys wearing see-thru Raiders shirts (that still disturbs me) to every race and creed known to man. But when I saw two men holding hands walking down the boardwalk I was confused. Why are two grown men holding hands? So I asked my Dad about it. He said that not every relationship is between a man and a woman. Sometimes men have other relationships with men and women other relationships with women. And that was all he said. School never taught me that. Growing up Catholic, the church definitely didn't bother to teach me that when I was in CCD classes. Granted, I was probably too young to bother learning about relationships but I'm actually happy about that day because it opened my eyes that not every relationship is between a man and a woman. And it has always stuck with me that if you like someone, no matter who they are, you should be allowed to be with them. (Unless you like Ann Coulter, then you're just an asshole.)

Yesterday news broke that actor Zachary Quinto had publicly acknowledged that he was gay. That's right, the mind-melding Vulcan from the Star Trek reboot has boldly gone where most other men haven't gone before. And that's out of the closet. Quinto posted on his blog the following message about why he came out:

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when i found out that jamey rodemeyer killed himself - i felt deeply troubled.  but when i found out that jamey rodemeyer had made an it gets better video only months before taking his own life - i felt indescribable despair.  i also made an it gets better video last year - in the wake of the senseless and tragic gay teen suicides that were sweeping the nation at the time.  but in light of jamey's death - it became clear to me in an instant that living a gay life without publicly acknowledging it - is simply not enough to make any significant contribution to the immense work that lies ahead on the road to complete equality.  our society needs to recognize the unstoppable momentum toward unequivocal civil equality for every gay lesbian bisexual and transgendered citizen of this country.  gay kids need to stop killing themselves because they are made to feel worthless by cruel and relentless bullying.  parents need to teach their children principles of respect and acceptance.  we are witnessing an enormous shift of collective consciousness throughout the world.  we are at the precipice of great transformation within our culture and government.  i believe in the power of intention to change the landscape of our society - and it is my intention to live an authentic life of compassion and integrity and action.  jamey rodemeyer's life changed mine.  and while his death only makes me wish that i had done this sooner - i am eternally grateful to him for being the catalyst for change within me.  now i can only hope to serve as the same catalyst for even one other person in this world.  that - i believe - is all that we can ask of ourselves and of each other.

zq. 



I'm not gay but I've always been a supporter of gay rights. I have friends that are gay, family members that are gay and I know from having conversations with them how they feel shutout at times. Especially from other family members. I grew up around a bunch of Catholic Italians so I'm not surprised that some of them don't approve of homosexuality. And when I ask them why, they can only answer with "Because it's not right." which is the default response for any close-minded individual.

So I'm happy that Quinto came out about his homosexuality. Hopefully it encourages other gay people that look up to him to not be afraid about coming out. That whether they work in Hollywood or not, they'll still be accepted. We'll still go see their movies. We'll still treat them the same way we did before they came out. (I will however be suspending pajama/brownie making sleepover nights.)

Whether you're straight or gay, you have ZERO right in telling others who they should and shouldn't like. It's none of your business. I'll be happy when the day comes that an actor tells us he's gay and it doesn't make the headlines. Until then all we can do is support anyone's decision who comes out and help spread the word that homosexuality isn't some crazy disease that your kids are going to catch. Gay people deserve the same marital rights and the same social status as straight people. And enough with the Bible lessons. Your religious backing is just a crutch for your stupidity.

So good for you Zach. I hope what you did helps others and that it opens people's eyes that everyone deserves to be looked at equally, no matter their race or sexual orientation. It's only logical way we can grow as a species.

Unless it's Ann Coulter. We can still go on hating her.

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